understand

“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.”

Love yourself

success and happiness

"To a large degree, our success and happiness in life depends on how much people like themselves when they're with us."
Joe Caruso

Happy life = Goal

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”

Albert Einstein

Johari window

Johari window

Disclosure/Feedback model of awareness

-Cognitive psychological tool used to help people better understand their interpersonal communication and relationships.
- Created by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham in 1955 , United States.

- A list of 55 adjectives and you and your friends each will pick five or six of the list.

able accepting adaptable bold brave calm caring cheerful clever complex confident

dependable dignified energetic extroverted friendly giving happy helpful idealistic independent ingenious

intelligent introverted kind knowledgeable logical loving mature modest nervous observant organized

patient powerful proud quiet reflective relaxed religious responsive searching self-assertive self-conscious

sensible sentimental shy silly spontaneous sympathetic tense trustworthy warm wise witty

- These adjectives are then mapped onto a grid. A four paned "window," divides personal awareness into four different types, as represented by its four quadrants:

1. "open" things that both I know about myself & you know about me.
2. "blind" things that you know about me, but that I am unaware of.
3. "hidden" things that I know about myself, that you do not know.
4. "unknown" things that neither I know about myself, nor you know about me.

Self Development Dictionary

Abundance
No matter how much or how little you have in your life, you can feel complete by manifesting the quality of abundance.

Accelerated Learning
Accelerated Learning is a style of learning in which one learns and retains information in an intensive and shortened amount of time using various methods which allow you to read, retain, and recollect information quickly and efficiently.

Achievement
Achievement connotes final accomplishment of something noteworthy, after much effort and often in spite of obstacles and discouragements.

Assessment Tools
Assessment tools are a devices or activities, such as charts, reports, or brainstorming sessions, that help in monitoring the effectiveness of a program.

Attitude
The term "attitude" refers to your disposition or state of mind, whether to a specific event or to life in general. Attitude is the result of one's perceptions. How we perceive an event or experience will largely determine the attitude we develop about future events and experiences, and a positive attitude can help a person weather the rough patches in life.

Body Language
Body Language is nonverbal, usually unconscious, communication through the use of postures, gestures, and facial expressions.

Brain Enhancement
Brain Enhancement can be achieved by different means of skills, methods, tests, and enrichment exercises to increase memory, reflexes, and attitude.

Business Networking
Business networking is the act of making personal connections to people who can help you achieve your business objectives.

Coach Training
Coach Training prepares students to become professional coaches themselves – giving them the knowledge, resources and motivation they need to become effective coaches and build their coaching careers.

Communication Skills and Training
Communication Skills are tools and methods to enhance the efficiency and effectiveness of an exchange of information, as by speech, signals, writing, or behavior.

Continuing Education
Continuing Education may refer to either a post-secondary education or an education required in a licensed profession in order for the professional to maintain the license.

Creativity Training and Enhancement
Creativity Training & Enhancement are mental and psychological methods through which one can improve or enhance the level of their personal creativity.

Distance Learning and E-Learning
Through Distance Learning, one can receive professional instruction in a subject without having to physically visit a classroom. Distance Learning relies on the Internet, phone or even mail to provide educational opportunities at a distance.

E-books
Self Improvement E-books create a great resource through which to obtain information on self improvement by experts and enthusiasts.

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)
EFT is the psychotherapeutic theory that suggests that negative emotions are caused by disturbances in the body's energy field and that balance can be restored through a sequence of tapping points.

Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence is an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. Emotional Intelligence is often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient or EQ.

Empowerment
Empowerment is increasing the spiritual, political, social or economic strength of individuals and communities and often involves developing confidence in one’s own capacities.

Entrepreneurs
From the French word for “one who undertakes,” an Entrepreneur is one who organizes or starts a business venture, usually at considerable personal risk.

Executive Coach and Executive Coaching
Executive coaching focuses on the needs of executives and assists them in developing their managerial and executive skills by providing feedback, tools and training. This section is dedicated to resources on executive coaching and executive coaches.

Future Trends
Through careful analysis of contemporary trends

Goal Setting
Goal Setting involves setting a specific, time targeted personal or business objective. In order for both short term and long term goals to be met, they must be realistic and clearly defined.

Habits
Habits are recurrent, often unconscious patterns of behavior that are acquired through frequent repetition. The section is dedicated to resources on both positive and negative habits and how to live with your habits.

Home School and Home Schooling
Home schooling is the education of children at home, typically by parents or guardians, rather than in a public or private school setting.

Imagery and Visualization
Visualization is the practice of seeking to affect the outer world via changing one's thoughts. By forming mental images of the material goods you’d like to have or the life circumstances you'd like to be in, you hope to make them reality.

Inspiration
Inspiration can have many sources - from the everyday to the divine - but the end result of inspiration is to lift the individual to a more focused and determined pursuit of their goals.

Inspirational Quotes
Inspirational Quotes are sayings, from literature, movies, and conversation, that when reflected upon bring personal motivation.

Integrity
An individual can exhibit Integrity by adhering to sound moral and ethical principles, and demonstrating honesty and strong moral character in all of his or her dealings with others.

Law of Attraction
Law of Attraction is a theory commonly associated with New Age and New Thought philosophy. It posits that one should never dwell on the negative, as the metaphysical principle of life is embodied in a "law of attraction": "you get what you think about.

Leadership
Leadership is facilitating, guiding or a directing a group, most commonly toward a shared goal.

Learning
Learning is the act of gaining knowledge through study, instruction or experience.

Life Coach and Life Coaching
Life Coaching is the practice of assisting clients to determine and achieve personal goals. A coach will use a variety of methods, tailored to the client, to move through the process of setting and reaching goals.

Listening Skills
As important a part of communication as being a good speaker, being a good listener requires having the listening skills to help you understand, see the perspective of and empathize with other people.

Manifestation
You can manifest your desires and make them a reality by train

Mind Control
Mind Control is the theories and/or techniques designed to subvert an individual's control of their own thinking, behavior, emotions, or decisions.

Mind Power
Mind power can be used to train your mind and direct the power of your subconscious mind toward success by working with your thoughts and beliefs to eliminate negative thinking.

Motivation
Motivation are those tools aimed at inspiring individuals to plan their goals, reach their dreams, and become successful.

Motivational Products and Services
Motivational Products & Services are those tools aimed at inspiring individuals to plan their goals, reach their dreams, and become successful.

Negotiating Skills
Negotiating Skills are the tools and techniques involved in peaceful, alternative dispute resolution.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), is based on the idea that all language and behaviors are highly structured. It uses

Organizing and Learning How to Organize
Many successful people are extremely organized. Organizing and learning how to organize have become important skills as the complexity of our lives continues to increase.

Peak Performance
Though the term "peak performance" could apply to a number of different areas of self improvement, one thing is clear – peak performance implies that the individual in question is operating at the top of his or her game. The following websites relating to Peak Performance have been reviewed by the editorial staff at SelfGrowth.com for quality and caliber.

Personal Accountability
Personal Accountability allows you to move away from a mindset where things happen "to you" in your life without your consent or influence, and embrace your role in the way your life is shaped by moving to a place of true power and freedom.

Personal Development
Personal Development is the general method used by a person who seeks to improve any or all aspects of their life through self-taught strategies, publicly available information, or techniques taught by experts.

Persuasion
The art of persuasion – the ability to convince others to accept your points of view and follow your directions – has been recognized as a fundamental building block for personal success since ancient times.

Productivity
Productivity is calculated by dividing the amount of goods or services produced by the units of labor it required to make them. An individual, business or nation that can increase its productivity rate can achieve greater output for less work.

Prosperity
Prosperity is a successful, flourishing, or thriving condition -- the term is usually used in reference to finances or money. Prosperity is, in a general sense, good fortune.

Public Speaking
Public Speaking is speaking to a group of people in a structured manner with the intention to inform, influence, or entertain the audience. A good orator should be able to invoke emotion in their listeners, not just inform them.

Publishing
Publishing includes the stages of the development, acquisition, copy editing, graphic design, printing (and its electronic equivalents), and marketing and distribution of books, newspapers, magazines, musical works, software and other works dealing with information.

Self Help Books
Books create a great medium through which to obtain information on self improvement by experts and enthusiasts.

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence
Self-Esteem consists of the self relevant beliefs and emotions which shape one's individual feelings and worth of him/herself.

Self-Publishing
Self-publishing is the publishing of books and other media by the authors of those works, rather than by established, third-party publishers. Modern advances in printing technology have made self-publishing easier and more popular than ever.

Seminars and Workshops
Seminars & Workshops in self improvement allow people to learn the skills and techniques necessary to succeed, while networking with self improvement enthusiasts and experts.

Speed Reading
Speed Reading is a reading technique that allows for the assimilation of several words or phrases at a glance. There are different methods of speed reading for different type of people based on their individual learning styles.

Stage Fright and Overcoming Stage Fright
Stage fright or performance anxiety refers to an anxiety, fear or persistent phobia related to performance in front of an audience or camera. This form of anxiety can precede or accompany participation in any activity involving public self-presentation.

Stress Management
Stress Management is the skills, methods, and techniques involving in managing and reducing stress either a day-to-day basis or on a long term scale.

Success Coaching
Success Coaching is a motivational tool that will help someone stay focused on a goal or path with help from a self improvement professional.

Success Principles
Success Principles are the methods and attitudes people utilize to achieve great levels of success and change their lives. These principles are often very easy to apply to your everyday life.

Team Building
Team building involves the selection, training and motivation of a group of people working toward a common goal.

Time Management
Time Management is a key strategy in organizing one's times and events in order to meet deadlines, goals, and personal agendas.

Transformation
Live as if your life depended on it. At all times and under all circumstances we have the power to transform the quality of our lives.

Vocabulary and Learning How to Improve Vocabulary
Learning how to improve your vocabulary will make you a more effective and engaging public speaker, presenter, and business person, as well as an all together more successful person.

Wisdom
Wisdom refers to the accumulated knowledge, erudition or enlightenment that allows one to judge what is true, right, and lasting.

Writing Tools
Writing Tools are any type of instrument or strategy to help one develop his/her writing and editing skills. Writing tools are also related to publishing and submitting one’s works.

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Rapport

Rapport
being on the same "wavelength"


be more persuasive

win friends and influence people

present yourself in a more attractive way

Rapport strategies

• Match Breathing

breathe out when they are speaking and breathe in when they stop talking.

• Mirror Facial Expressions
  

if you have rapport with someone make a slight change in your face ,and see if they follow by making the same face

• State Truisms
  

state something true, unconscious mind will recognize you as a truthful person

• Hypnotic Language Patterns
  

• Descriptive Language

• the Unconscious Hello

Everyone has a unique nonverbal hello

greet a person without giving them your unconscious hello, and when they give you theirs you immediately mirror it back at them

"all situations are unique"

Matching and mirroring , NLP based rapport techniques

Empathy ?

SOON

Who is lying

Can You Tell
Who is lying

Techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help

"Sorry I'm late, but I had a flat tire. Really, you wouldn't believe it. My tire was so flat."

Repeating parts of a fabricated story over and over doesn't make them any more factual. Liars are more likely to repeat words and phrases.
Hearing liars' voice, talking with a higher pitch than usual. The change-up is caused by the tension in vocal chords.

Nonverbal communication

Nonverbal communication

Communication through sending and receiving wordless messages

gesture - body language - posture - facial expression - eye contact

Object communication
clothing - hairstyles - architecture - symbols

Paralanguage
voice quality, emotion and speaking style, as well as prosodic features such as rhythm, intonation and stress

written texts
handwriting style - spatial arrangement of words - use of emoticons.

Face-to-face interaction

Environmental conditions where communication takes place
Physical characteristics of the communicators
Behaviors of communicators during interaction

MEDIATION

MEDIATION

In mediation, the parties agree to work with a neutral third-party facilitator, the mediator, to resolve their dispute. The main difference between negotiations and mediation is that in negotiations, the parties work directly with each other, while in mediation the parties work with the mediator who facilitates the settlement.

Characteristics of mediation.

1. The parties agree to work with a facilitator or mediator to resolve a dispute.

2. A mediator does not make a ruling like a judge or arbitrator.

3. Mediation is voluntary so either party may choose to stop at any time.

4. The mediator is neutral and impartial and does not represent either party’s interests.

5. A mediator may meet with both parties, a joint session, or individually with one party, a caucus. When meeting in caucus, what is said to the mediator is confidential unless the party agrees that the information can be shared.

6. A mediator can be used when direct negotiations failed.

7. A mediator can be used when the parties don’t like each other.

8. A mediator may be able to defuse conflicts or disagreements between the parties.

9. The mediator may play devil’s advocate or give a reality check to the parties.

10. Mediation is not therapy.

11. If the case cannot be resolved through mediation, the parties may try arbitration.

Differences Between Mediation and Negotiation

Negotiation: The parties agree to work with each other to resolve a dispute.

Mediation: The parties agree to work with a facilitator or mediator to resolve a dispute.

Negotiation: The parties always meet with each other.

Mediation: A mediator may meet with both parties jointly or meet individually with one party which is called a caucus.

Negotiation: The parties can bind themselves in an agreement.

Mediation: The mediator has no decision-making authority and cannot bind the parties. A mediator does not make a ruling like a judge or arbitrator.

Negotiation: The parties have their own interests in the negotiation.

Mediation: The mediator is neutral and impartial and does not represent either party’s interests.

Negotiation: The parties use persuasion to get the other side to agree with them

Mediation: The mediator may play devil’s advocate or give a reality check to the parties, but it is not the mediator’s role to persuade the parties.

Negotiation: Some negotiations fail because the parties cannot work with each other.

Mediation: A mediator may be used because the parties prefer a third party.

Negotiation: Some negotiations fail because the parties have too many conflicts.

Mediation: A mediator may be able to defuse conflicts or disagreements.

Negotiation: Some negotiations are not voluntary such as union negotiations.

Mediation: Mediation is voluntary and either party may choose to stop at any time.

Negotiation: When the parties can’t agree, they reach a deadlock or impasse.

Mediation: When negotiations reach an impasse, the parties may try mediation .

Arbitration: When mediation reaches an impasse, the parties may try arbitration.

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